Chip, sorry you got sucked into the Yahoo! QB vortex. I have gone down that path before, and I recall how it makes you feel--angry, like you have to keep hitting "reply." (But you really don't.) I realize your original comment was that the post offended you. The author should have apologized, and that would have been it (she has now). What both sides have done is bring in the "big guns"--lining up allies for their viewpoint, while drifting away from the real issue. Some years ago during marriage counseling, my wife and I were told to put away the big guns and get down to the issues. The counselor said that ultimately, people don't really care about rationalizations, just feelings. As a logical person, I found this hard to swallow, but I have found it to be absolutely true with my wife. E.g., if I say, "I really want to go to this event," and she says, "I want you home with me," this is much more effective communication than: "I want to go because it's a good opportunity, and I haven't gone anywhere in awhile, and " With her reply: "But you weren't home last night, and you got to go to such & such" That ultimately leads to frustration and consternation. So, I am going to go back to the original post, and try to clean things up a bit Chip: "That post offended me because I thought it was racially insensitive." Kelly: "Sorry, man." ~ END ~
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